Last week my son had surgery. He’s fine now. But in the weeks leading up to the surgery, I noticed a shift in me. It was as if I’d had an “aha” moment.
Suddenly, I found myself appreciating the small things. The kisses that leave your cheeks wet and the hugs that cut off your circulation for a while.
I put the dirty dishes back in the sink, and joined him when he invited me to ‘share blocks’ with him. I felt more calm, and patient when the outbursts came. I let him help me cook, even though I knew it was going to make the task twice as hard.
In short, I felt more present.
More present and more grateful.
When big things happen in life, like surgeries, illnesses, or even deaths, it’s like we get a wake-up call. It’s as though we suddenly remember that all we have are these moments. Sure we can spend them tackling the ‘to-do’ list that never seems to end.
But why not do something that matters?
Why not hug someone close and enjoy their presence next to you?
I’m extremely happy that the surgery is over now. But more than that, I’m happy for the reminder it gave me. One that I want to pass on to you- no surgery required :).
Our babies are growing up, and if we aren’t careful we’re going to miss it.
My son isn’t always going to want to share his blocks with me. But there will always be a new bowl in my sink. Trust me. ALWAYS.
But this isn’t just for the parents out there. This is for anyone blessed to have someone that they love still living, no matter who that is. Our parents are getting older, we need to love them while we have them. Maybe it’s a friend that you haven’t reached out to in a while—reach out to them. Love those that you have while you have them.
Now here comes the bad part. The part that I’m almost embarrassed to admit. I know that in the weeks to come, it will be harder for me to remember this reminder. Isn’t that how it always happens? It is for me. I get those wake up calls and they really get to me- for a while- and then slowly I forget, and things revert back to how they always were.
Well that’s why I wanted to write this today, so that I could break that cycle. When I’m having a rough day, I can come back and read this and remember, how, in the grand scheme of things, the mini frustrations don’t even matter. It’ll remind me to appreciate, love and cherish each and every moment God gives me.
So here’s your reminder, friend. Love someone today. Pick up the phone and talk to someone that might normally slip through the cracks of your hectic life. Hug your children a little tighter. Enjoy what you have while you have it, and live your life with no regrets.
Make life sweet, and learn all you can.