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Finding my ‘Me Time’

I did a thing this week. It’s a thing that defies all logic and maybe even common sense. So what was it?

Every morning last week, I woke up about an hour before my son did. I willingly gave up some of my precious sleep. See what I mean? Makes no sense. But I had to find my ‘me time’.

So, I’ll take you back to how this all happened. First you have to understand, my son was not a good sleeper. He didn’t start sleeping through the night until just before his first birthday. And he wasn’t just waking up once or twice through the night, no, we’re talking at least four and sometimes six times a night. But eventually, we read a book, were able to sleep train him and now he sleeps like a champ. So what was the problem?

Well, I was getting almost 7 hours of sleep at night, which isn’t too shabby. But the problem was, I was using my baby as my alarm clock. When he woke up in the morning, I would flick on the light and stumble to his door, taking a moment to compose myself outside of the door and put on my cheeriest face for him before entering the room.

I’m not a morning person, like at all. On the spectrum of non-morning-people, I don’t think I’m the worst, but I’m at least over the halfway mark. I need those 5, maybe even 10 minutes to get myself together before facing the day. Using my baby alarm clock wasn’t providing me with that much needed ‘wake-up’ time, and I also wasn’t in control of my schedule.

I knew I had to change something, but the obvious answer didn’t appeal to me. Sure I wanted those extra 5 minutes, but at the cost of forfeiting more sleep? Nah, I was good. So I pushed the idea out of my head. But then I started getting headaches, I wasn’t sleeping well, and I just started to feel like I needed more structure. I decided I’d give it a test run, just to see how I did.

So Monday morning, I set my alarm. I woke up, got through half of my workout, and then, my baby woke up. But guys, I felt amazing! When I went to greet him that morning, I wasn’t faking the cheery. The next day, I did it again, but this time, I woke up earlier than the alarm clock on my own, because I was so excited about starting my day. I did my workout, I showered, had my delicious coffee frap, and got half of my devotional in before he woke up. Again, I felt amazing.

It feels like I’ve found more time in my day, time that was missing. But in truth, I’m going to bed MUCH earlier, so I’m awake for the same amount of time. So why do I feel so good?

I think it’s because I started my day off right. I started it off filling my own cup. As moms, dads, coworkers, students, siblings, whatever hat you wear, we spend a lot of time pouring into others. Having a little time to feel like you are the most important person in the world, that little indulgent time, makes a big difference. And I think getting that time right at the beginning of my day, sets the pace. I have more to give and I’m happy to do it. It probably sounds sappy, but this week, I’ve been enjoying life more, I really have.

So this week, I encourage you to give yourself those few indulgent minutes. You don’t have to wake up earlier in the morning like me; that doesn’t work for every situation and I get that. But find what works for YOU. Maybe you find that 5 minutes before bed, or maybe you even have it while you’re in the car driving somewhere. Let me know below, are you team night owl or team rooster? HA! What are some ways you get that indulgent time?

Whatever your method, do something for you this week. You’re important, and you’ve got to start acting like it.

Have a great day, make life sweet, and learn all you can.

(6) Comments

  1. I’m in the same boat you once were in. I’m struggling to find my “me time.” My baby is almost 7 months and doesn’t sleep through the night…and she sleeps in the bed with my husband and I. I’m interested in your sleep training method. We’ve got to do something because Mama is tired! I’d love to wake up an hour before she does. Right now mornings are a bit stressful because I don’t have time to get ready for the day. I take my “me time” at night but I’d prefer the morning. Kudos to you Mama!

    1. Amie says:

      Aww, hang in there! I remember how rough that age was, and I felt like there was no end in sight. But it does get better. My pediatrician recommended this book called “The Sleep Lady’s Good Night, Sleep Tight” by Kim West. It was a game changer for us. The book gives specific instructions depending on the age of your baby and their temperament. We made a few modifications, but we saw results really quickly.

  2. Good for you! I’ve also started waking up earlier. I don’t do anything special, it’s only to get to work earlier but that means I leave earlier and gives me so much time to finish my day. I may even push it to 4:00AM

    1. Amie says:

      Oh wow, 4 am, is on a whole different level. Haha. But that’s great that you’re still getting some time for yourself after your day is done. It’s nice to be able to recharge.

  3. Girl I recently found this out myself. I wake up about 45mins earlier thank my family and get some me time in. I usually read my bible and journal to God.

    1. Amie says:

      Yesss!! It’s just an amazing way to start your day.

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